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Suffering from RBF (Resting Bitch Face)

I've been thinking about writing this post for a while now and thought it was about time I just got on with it. If you're a little confused why I've decided to write about Resting Bitch Face (or RBF for short) please bear with me. Just in case you've never actually come across the term RBF before this is when somebody has a naturally miserable, angry or 'bitchy' neutral face. By neutral face I mean when you're not smiling, laughing, frowning or adopting any kind of facial expression. Although RBF is not an illness or disease or disability it actually can really be a problem if you're unlucky enough to suffer from it.

Suffering from RBF (Resting Bitch Face)

Recently a friend of my boyfriend commented that I suffer from 'particularly strong RBF'. I don't think he meant to be particularly tactless, but it did get to me because he's right and it causes me problems and there's absolutely nothing I can do about it. My boyfriend (who I've been with for 11 years now) regularly likes to comment that when we first met I sat and glared at him while he was talking and every single time I point out that actually I was just listening to what he was saying.

My earliest memory of this being a problem for me was when I was a teenager. One weekend I was out with a few friends, two other girls and two boys if I remember correctly, and we were walking through a local park, just wandering around aimlessly like teenagers like to do. There was a group of other people around our age in the park, I can't remember how many but there was at least a couple of girls, and when we went to walk past them one girl decided that I'd been 'facesty'. To this day I'm still not entirely sure what this actually means, but I assume she thought that I gave her a dirty look. I possibly glanced over in their direction as we approached them, like you might do when walking past somebody, but I can only assume that she took my neutral face as being 'facesty' towards her. They stopped us and wouldn't let us carry on. I can't remember all of the details as I have a bad memory but I do remember that although we were talking and joking around slightly there was an undercurrent of threat in the situation. Basically she'd decided she had a problem with me. The jacket I had on at the time was one made of fabric that would ignite quite easily (90s fashion!) and while she spoke to me she kept flicking a lighter on and off. My best friend admitted later that she was concerned that she might move the lighter towards me to attempt to set my jacket on fire. At one point she mentioned something about her shoes being dirty and maybe I should lick them clean for her. I was furious when my friend, who was obviously really scared, asked if she'd let us go if I did it. Obviously I have some pride and I'm not sure what I'd have done if she had tried to make me lick her shoes in front of everybody there. Eventually I think she got bored and they let us leave. We got back to my friends house and I finally burst into tears. 

Something that I often have to put up with is comments along the lines of 'Cheer up, it might never happen' 'Smile, it can't be that bad' 'Has somebody died' or various different combinations along the same lines. One of the worst times for this we were at the pub quiz we regularly attend and a friend of my boyfriend who he doesn't see often had come along. He sat opposite me on the table and was quite drunk. Every five minutes or so I'd get one of these comments and no matter how many times I told him I was absolutely fine or that this is just how my face looks he'd pipe up again shortly afterwards. I don't know why I didn't just walk out in the end (or tell him to f*** off or punch him in the face) as I was getting more and more upset and frustrated, which probably didn't help my RBF situation.

As you might be aware if you're a long term reader I work in TV and film appearing in front of the camera. I love this work, but something I always have to be conscious of when in front of the camera is what I'm doing with my face, or I guess in this case, not doing. If my neutral face is caught on camera I'm probably going to end up looking like a moody bitch. If I'm not smiling or having to act shocked or whatever else the director has asked us to do I try to keep my mouth open just slightly. I might run the risk of looking a bit vacant, but it's better than RBF. I have tried to try and keep a small smile on my face to try and counteract the miserable look I have, but think about if you have to keep up a smile for a long period of time, or give it a try. After a while it starts to feel a bit fake and it's also exhausting.

The thing that finally pushed me to writing up and publishing this post (although it has been sat in my drafts for quite a while now) was when somebody I follow on Twitter tweeted asking why people still walk around with RBF and commented that it doesn't take much effort to smile. The problem is if you accidentally make eye contact with a stranger this is a fleeting moment before you both politely look away again. I always try to smile at somebody if we catch each others eye, because I am a nice polite person, but often we've both looked away before my brain can register to my face that it needs to smile. So then at best that persons first impression of me is probably that I'm rude or miserable. 

If there was any kind of surgery available to try and help I would seriously consider it, but what could anybody actually do to try and help me. It's unfortunately just something I've got to live with for the rest of my life. So if you're one of those people that would say something like 'Cheer up' or 'Smile' please stop and think, and if you are actually bothered about how the person might be feeling how about asking 'Are you ok?' instead.

Do you suffer with Resting Bitch Face? Have you ever had a bad experience because of it?

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Hempz Herbal body moisturiser

I can be quite picky about the lotions, butters and oils that I use on my body, but if somebody offers me one to try I will usually accept it just in case it might be that one product that blows all similar products out the water. When I first received the email about the Hempz Herbal body moisturiser* I was a little judgemental and my first thought was the packaging really didn't look very exciting. But I reminded myself that you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover, or a body lotion by it's packaging, and provided my details so one could wing it's way over to me. I'm really glad I did now. 

Hempz Original Herbal body moisturiser

The first time I tried a hemp product from The Body Shop I remember thinking that the leaf on the packaging looked very much like a cannabis leaf (not that I know anything about cannabis, apart from the fact that you can't overdose on it). My boyfriend then advised me that this is because hemp is a variety of the cannabis plant, so a hemp leaf will look very similar to a cannabis leaf. Every day's a school day!

Hempz products contain 100% pure natural hemp seed oil, which is a rich source of essential fatty acids, as well as amino acids, omega-3 and 6, vitamins, minerals and nutrients to help keep skin hydrated, nourished and conditioned. Hempz products are also vegan and gluten, paraben and cruelty free. I notice on the information I have it also confirms that these are drug free!

Now, as I said the packaging is not the most attractive, although I do kind of like it's simplicity, but blimmin heck this is a lovely body lotion. I was sent the original version, so I wasn't expecting much in the way of scent or fragrance, but it actually smells gorgeous. I'm not quite sure how to describe it but it has a sweat scent. If I'd checked the literature I received with the product before I started writing this post then I'd have known beforehand that the scent is actually floral and banana. Now I know that I can actually recognise a floral side and the banana side. 

There are a few different products within the range. In the body moisturiser formula I have you can also get vanilla plum, fresh coconut and watermelon, and exotic green tea and Asian pear. They all sound amazing but coconut and watermelon in particular gets me a little excited! They then also offer a Triple Moisture Herbal Whipped body creme, fragranced with enchanted grapefruit and sparkling peach, and Age Defying Herbal body moisturiser fragranced with vanilla and musk.

The original features a light lotion, that I've already said smells amazing, and applies easily. You don't need much as a little appears to go quite a long way and after a minute or two it's all absorbed leaving behind soft, moisturised skin. This comes in quite a hefty 500ml bottle, so as you don't need to use very much I would imagine this will last a while. 

Hempz body moisturisers are exclusive to Sally stores but if you're not lucky enough to live close to a store (there's one five minutes walk from my house!) you can also order online from the Sally website. At £12,98 a bottle it's not the cheapest product, but you are getting quite a lot of product for your money.

Do you like the look of Hempz Herbal body moisturisers?

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Birchbox June 2016 - Paradise Found

My Birchbox post is a little late this month, but there is a very good reason for both that and my recent lack of posts. If you follow me on Twitter then you may be aware that I moved house at the beginning of June. I only had an admittedly very full bedroom to pack up as well as a few things in the loft and in a cupboard, but it took so long to pack and has taken even longer to unpack and settle in. I've stayed active as much as possible on Instagram but had to completely abandon blogging for a while and I've really missed it. But now I'm back, and my first post is about June's Birchbox*. 

This month Birchbox have gone for a tropical feel with the theme Paradise Found and there are two boxes; one featuring a palm tree print and one a pineapple print. I'm not sure if you got to pick your box or not this month, but you usually do have the option. There was also an upgrade available this month where you could add a pair of Quay Australia sunglasses for £18 instead of £30, but I believe this was only available before the box was actually released.

Birchbox June 2016 - Paradise Found
Birchbox June 2016 - Paradise Found

I received the palm tree box and although I think I might have preferred the pineapple one, in general I'm not a huge fan of this box design. Although in some ways the box is quite bright it's also quite pastel and I tend to prefer a bright colourful box. You can't deny that the boxes are very 'on trend' though. They just needed a watermelon slice box, a flamingo box and a unicorn box and that would have been all blogger obsessions covered! This month there has been a slight change to the box and although it is still box shaped it actually has a drawer you pull out rather than lifting off the lid. I think this one will end up on my brand new desk/dressing table used as storage.

Birchbox June 2016 - Paradise Found

When I first opened the drawer the first product that came into view was the Percy & Reed Session Hold hairspray. I only tend to use hairspray when I've curled my hair, which isn't very often at the moment, but I believe my current one is almost empty so this will come in useful. I haven't tried this at all so I have no idea what it's like but I do like the dinky little size that you can drop in your handbag. As long as it doesn't make my hair in any way crispy or solid it will probably be a thumbs up from me. 

The next product I spotted was a Laura Mercier Soufflé body crème in Ambre Vanillé. This is currently sealed (I do like to see an actually sealed product) so I can't see what it smells like until I decide to open it, but I would imagine it smells amazing. The only Laura Mercier product I've tried is a primer and that was the one that convinced me primers can actually do something for you, so I have high hopes for this being a lovely product. 

To follow was a James Reed Overnight Tan Sleep Mask Tan Face, which is a little bit of a mouthful. This is basically a fake tan for your face. You apply the gel at night, making sure you blend into the hairline and décolletage, and wake to a subtle golden glow. Hopefully! I can see the possibility for disaster with this so if I do decide to try it I'll probably start off with a patch test in my elbow or somewhere inconspicuous so I can see how it develops. 

Next up is a product from a brand that I haven't personally come across called Absolution. The product is called Le Nettoyant Pureté and on looking at the packaging I wouldn't be able to tell you what sort of product this is. Resorting to the Birchbox booklet informed me this is a gel face cleanser. The ingredients are in English and I can see that lavender is high up on the ingredients list so I'm cautious about using this. I will give it a try as it is a wash off product, but this might not be a product for me. 

Birchbox June 2016 - Paradise Found

Finally I found a little Jelly Pong Pong Paradise Pigments in Cake Pop. Again I wasn't entirely sure what this product was at first glance but it's actually a lip and cheek tint. The colour is quite shockingly bright, but the booklet does reassure you that this is much more subtle than it looks in the pot. This is the only full size product in this months box. 

Although there are a good mix of products this month, including make-up, hair care, facial tan, facial cleanser and body lotion, it's not my favourite box of the last few months. I think the products are good but are maybe not the right selection for me personally. I certainly wouldn't call it a bad box at all though.

If you'd like to sign up to Birchbox it's just £10 a month for the box plus £2.95 P&P and you can sign up here.

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